August Accountability 2nd: Accountability Partner

2 August 2017
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Category: Accountability
2 August 2017, Comments: 2


We need to get this set up before we move any further.   You may not identify your Accountability Partners today but this will help you think more closely about who you choose as we cover the basics for the next few days.

I think it is fitting to review the differences between an Accountability Partner, a Mentor, and Life Coach because most of us have each of these at our disposal – in this day and time.  Twenty years ago, you rarely heard about a person having a Life Coach or an Accountability Partner.  We were familiar with Mentors but it was still a rarity.  Now, you have multiple choices for either of these options.  Which one you choose depends on:

What your goals are at this particular time in your life?

The route you want to take in meeting those goals.

What do you have readily accessible to you to meet those goals?


Highlights of the three types of external motivators

Accountability Partner

  • Normally someone you are familiar with and have a prior relationship with (friend, relative, mate, etc).
  • You tend to have more access to the person either via face-to-face interactions, phone calls, texts, or emails.
  • You feel more comfortable with this person because there is already a prior level of familiarity.
  • Usually segmented depending on what the person needs. For example, a person may have an Accountability Partner at work as they prepare a presentation for review
  • There are no fees associated with the relationship.


  • Normally a trusted adviser, someone who is looked upon as being wise or knowledgeable about your interests.
  • May be somewhat familiar with them but not always necessarily so for every one (example, mother arranges for student to have a mentor in their field of interest).
  • Generally builds a long-term relationship focused on the mentee growing and developing.
  • Supportive in their guidance.
  • The focus is on encouragement through building of strengths and overcoming weaknesses.
  • There are no direct fees associated with the relationship.  There may be an exchange of time for the knowledge. For example, working in the office to help thereby being exposed through contact with the mentor).

Life Coach

  • Normally a professional who has demonstrated a skill for guiding and leading people.
  • The relationship is focused on outcomes therefore a plan is established and reviewed throughout the relationship.
  • Gives the client access to professional guidance and support to address the behaviors, thought patterns, or practices which are destructive and compromise outcomes.
  • Normally has a specific time allotted for the relationship.
  • It is structured with regularly scheduled meetings.
  • There are fees associated with the service.

So, why do I focus on ladies having Accountability Partners?  It is to urge every one to focus on having some external level of guidance to help with reaching those goals that have been set. I certainly understand it is not necessary for everyone to have an AP.  However, the response I have heard throughout this journey is that the help of an AP certainly helped.

So, how do you choose an Accountability Partner: 

You would benefit considerably more if your Accountability Partner had these character traits.

A – Assertive

The AccPa needs to have the wherewithal to directly challenge you while encouraging you to remain on the course.  If they are less assertive than you, it is highly likely you will not respect their input or their guidance.  You need someone whose perspective you will find valuable.

C – Consistent

Determine if the person is able to consistently meet with you and determine the type of venue you will use to meet with the person; in-person, video, phone, email, etc.

C – Challenging

Your AccPa will encourage you through your accomplishments and through your disappointments.  This person won’t appease you but will help you find the areas of your life which can strengthen your journey.   Do not choose a “yes” person.   Choose someone who will help you develop those things which have been helpful and improve on those areas which have hindered you.

P – Productive

Find that person that is insightful and makes good decisions in their own life.  The person who knows you and understands what it takes to move you to the next level.   You want your time dialoguing with this person to be productive.  If you find yourself talking about the good old days or what’s in the local news, you have a friend.  Ensure there is a balance that leaves you spending more than 80% of your time with this person discussing your progress and/or setbacks.

A – Attitude

Consider the person’s demeanor and level of focus exhibited in their own life.  Ensure that you find their behavior commendable and not questionable.


Okay, we are setting the stage for an Awesome Month!!! Let me know what you think.  

Have you considered the differences in the three types of external motivators before today?

Which type do you prefer for where  you are in your life right now and why?

Are you ready to be an Accountability Partner for someone else?


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2 responses on “August Accountability 2nd: Accountability Partner

  1. Le'Kila Livingston says:

    Before today I have never really considered the difference between the three. I do feel that a mentor would be the best option for me because I have been thinking about pursuing a mentor for a few years now, however, I am a very shy person so it has been a bit challenging at times to put myself out there. I also feel that it will be important for me to find a mentor who has been in my shoes as I am closer to graduating college, and I would like to learn from someone who has been through this process. I’m not sure if I will be a good accountability partner for someone else, but I will try.

    • Stacia says:

      Hi Le’Kila, the good thing is that you are thinking about your options. I am glad today’s post was able to offer some insight. Even in your shyness, it may help to write down some of the thoughts you are having about your future and what you may need help with on the journey. This will help you as we move into tomorrow’s lessons. By the end of the week, you have more of a plan formulated on what you need from a mentor or an accountability partner.